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Excerpts from THE DOMOSTROI - mid-16th century

“Foundation of a Home”

Rules for Russian Households

 

The Domostroi prescribes that: the father must conduct daily religious services in the home, and the women of the house must attend church services daily. The father is head of the house and rules the home, and the wife must be disciplined most carefully – if she misbehaves, it is her husband's duty to correct her. Children and servants must also be corrected for their transgressions. The mother must keep her husband's clothes clean and mended and prepare her daughter's trousseau, and the father must set aside his daughter's dowry. The document states:

“Every day in the evening, any man who can read should sing vespers, compline, and the midnight office with his wife, children, and servants – quietly, attentively, with gentle bearing, with prayer and bows, carefully and in unison. After the service do not eat or drink at all. These instructions apply to everyone. In the morning after rising, pray to God. Sing matins and the hours. On Sundays and holidays hold service, praying silently and with gentle demeanor. Sing in unison. Listen attentively. Burn incense before the saints. If no one knows how to sing the services, it is enough just to pray every evening and morning. Men should not fail to attend church services every day – vespers... In church stand during every service. Pray with trepidation and silently. At home sing compline, midnight office, and the hours. Anyone who adds more services for the sake of his salvation – as long as it is done freely – will receive a greater reward from God. Do not leave the church before the end of the service; always arrive in time for the beginning. Every Christian should always have his prayer rope in his hands, and the Jesus prayer perpetually on his lips. In the church, at home, the marketplace, walking, standing, or sitting, anywhere, as said the Prophet David, ‘in every place where he hath dominion, Bless the Lord, O my soul.’” (Psalm 103:22).”

 

How to Educate Children and Bring Them Up In the Fear of God

If God send children, sons or daughters, father and mother must take care of these their children. Provide for them and bring them up in good instruction. Teach them the fear of God and politeness and propriety, and teach them some handicraft, according to the time and age of the children: the mother instructing her daughters, and the father his sons, as best he knows and as God counsels him. Love them and watch them and save them through fear. Teaching and instructing them and reasoning with them, correcting them. Teach your children in their youth, and you will have a quiet old age. Look after their bodily cleanliness, and keep them from all sin, like the apple of your eye and your own souls. If the children transgress through the neglect of their parents, the parents will answer for these sins on the day of the terrible judgment. If the children are not taken care of and transgress through lack of the parents' instruction, or do some evil, there will be both to the parents and children a sin before God, scorn and ridicule before men, a loss to the house, grief to oneself, and cost and shame from the judges. If by God-fearing, wise and sensible people the children be brought up in the fear of God, and in good instruction and sensible teaching, in wisdom and politeness and work and handicraft, such children and their parents are loved by God, blessed by the clerical vocation, and praised by good people; and when they are of the proper age, good people will gladly and thankfully marry off their sons, according to their possessions and the will of God, and will give their daughter In marriage to their sons. And if God take away one of their children, after the confession and extreme unction, the parents bring a pure offering to God to take up an abode in the eternal mansion; and the child is bold to beg God’s mercy and forgiveness of his parents’ sins.

 

How to Teach Children and Save Them through Fear

Teach well your son in his youth, and he will give you a quiet old age, and restfulness to your soul. Weaken not in correcting the boy, for he will not lose life from your instruction, but will be in better health: for in such discipline you save his soul from death. If you love your son, correct him frequently, that you may rejoice later. Chide your son in his childhood and you will be glad in his manhood, and you will boast among evil persons and your enemies will be envious. Bring up your child with much prohibition and you will have peace and blessing from him. Do not smile at him, or play with him, for though that will diminish your grief while he is a child, it will increase it when he is older, and you will cause much bitterness to your soul. Give him no power in his youth, but restrain him while he is growing and does not in his willfulness obey you, lest there be an aggravation and suffering to your soul, a loss to your house, destruction to your property, scorn from your neighbors and ridicule from your enemies, and cost and worriment from the authorities.

 

How Christians Are to Cure Diseases and all Kinds of Ailments

If God send any disease or ailment down upon a person let him cure himself through the grace of God, through tears, prayer, fasting, and charity to the poor and true repentance. Let him thank the Lord and beg His forgiveness, and show mercy and undisguised charity to everybody. Have the clergy pray to the Lord for you, and sing hymns and prayers. Sanctify the water with the holy crosses and holy relics and miracle-working images, and be anointed with the holy oil. Frequent the miracle-working and holy places, and pray there with a pure conscience. In that way you will receive from God a cure for all your ailments. But you must henceforth abstain from sin, and in the future do no wrong, and keep the commands of the spiritual fathers, and do penance. Thus you will be purified from sin, and your spiritual and bodily ailment will be cured, and God will be gracious to you.

 

The Wife Is Always and in All Things to Take Counsel with Her Husband

In all affairs of everyday life, the wife is to take counsel with her husband, and to ask him, if she needs anything. Let her be sure that her husband wants her to keep company with the guests she invites, or the people she calls upon. Let her put on the best garment, if she receives a guest, or herself is invited somewhere to dinner. By all means let her abstain from drinking liquor, for a drunk man is bad enough, but a drunk woman has no place in the world. A woman ought to talk with her lady-friends of handiwork and housekeeping. She must pay attention to any good word that is said in her own house, or in that of her friend: how good women live, how they keep house, manage their household, instruct their children and servants, obey their husbands, and ask their advice in everything, and submit to them. And if there is anything she does not know, let her politely inquire about it.... It is good to meet such good women, not for the sake of eating and drinking with them, but for the sake of good conversation and information, for it is profitable to listen to them. Let not a woman rail at anyone, or gossip about others. If she should be asked something about a person, let her answer: “I know nothing about it, and have heard nothing of it; I do not inquire about things that do not concern me; nor do I sit in judgment over the wives of princes, boiars, or my neighbors.”

 

How to Instruct Servants

Enjoin your servants not to talk about other people. If they have been among strangers, and have noticed anything bad there, let them not repeat it at home; nor should they spread rumors about what is going on at home. A servant must remember what he has been sent for, and he must not know, nor answer any other questions that are put to him. The moment he has carried out his commission, he should return home and report to his master in regard to the matter he has been sent for; let him not gossip of things he has not been ordered to report, lest he cause quarrel and coldness between the masters. If you send your servant, or son, to tell, or do something, or buy a thing, ask him twice: “What have I ordered you to do? What are you to say, or do, or buy?” If he repeats to you as you have ordered him, all is well.... if you send anywhere some eatables or liquids, send full measures, so that they cannot lie about them. Send your wares after having measured or weighed them, and count the money, before you send it out. Best of all, dispatch under seal. Carefully instruct the servant whether he is to leave the things at the house, if the master should be absent, or if he is to bring them back home.... When a servant is sent to genteel people, let him knock at the door softly. If anyone should ask him, as he passes through the courtyard: “What business brings you here?” let him not give him any satisfaction, but say: “I have not been sent to you; I shall tell to him to whom I have been sent.” Let him clean his dirty feet before the antechamber, or house, or cell, wipe his nose, clear his throat, and correctly say his prayer; and if he does not receive an “amen” in response, he should repeat the prayer in a louder voice, twice or three times. If he still receives no answer, he must softly knock at the door. When he is admitted, he should bow before the holy images, give his master's respects, and tell his message. While doing so, let him not put his finger in his nose, nor cough, nor clean his nose, nor clear his throat, nor spit. If he absolutely must do so, let him step aside. He must stand straight and not look to either side when reporting the message; nor should he relate any matter not relevant to the message. Having done his duty, he should forthwith return home, to report to his master.

 

How to keep your house clean and well-ordered

In a good family, where the wife is careful, the house is always clean and well-arranged; everything is in order, put away in its right place, cleaned and swept. It's like going into paradise. All this is the wife's job; she must instruct the servants and children in friendly manner or in harsher words if that does not help. But if the husband sees that wife and servants are careless and don't follow the rules set in this manual, he must teach his wife, reason with her and instruct her. If she complies and does everything as it should be done, she deserves love and favor; but if she fails to conform to precepts, to do the work and to teach the servants, let her husband discipline her and scare her in private; and after he should relent and speak kindly. Punishment must be given in love and with judgment. The husband should not be angry with his wife, nor she with him; but they should live in love and openness. Behave likewise with servants and children: punish their offenses, correct them for their faults, and then relent. The lady must look after the servants with good judgment; they will then be encouraged. But if wife, son, or daughter pays no heed to word or instruction, if they will not listen, obey, and fear, if they refuse to do what they are told by father or mother, they should be corrected according to their offense. Correct them in private, not in public; punish, then relent and say a loving word.

 


 

The Russian Family Code

From the 16th century

64 Chapters on every aspect of life, on worship, honor of tsar and the home

The father was the head of the family, the master whom his wife, children and servants must obey. Children should be raised in fear of punishment. Having praised the value of punishment, The Family Code offered advice on teaching children handicraft and housework.

A wife must be faithful and obedient to her husband. Her greatest value was in being “good, hardworking and quiet.” She must raise the children and work at home, cooking, washing, sewing, preserving food being economical and thrifty. Her every step, her every wish, must be endorsed by her husband. Rebellion is anticipated. If the husband sees that his wife is clumsy, insubordinate, or does not heed his advice, The Family Code permits a lashing, a lesson for which she should be thankful. There are mercies. The Family Code advises the husband not to get carried away, so as not to accidentally cause serious injury.

Advice to Fathers:

“Punish your son in his youth and be at peace in your old age... If you have daughters, rule them strictly, and you will protect them from harm.”

Advice to wives:

“You should ask about everything, get advice about everything: where to go out, whom to invite into your house, and what to talk about with your guests.”

- Family Code

In the 17th century Peter I changed some things. Thinness was, for Russian women of that time, considered a real deficiency, and there were several sure methods for gaining weight.

The traditional Russian dress was cumbersome and heavy. It swung from the shoulders like a bell, ensuring that the dress in no way clung to the form of the woman's body. Neck and shoulders were covered by an expensive cloth or fur collar. The dress was worn with a headdress, which for married women completely hid the hair. Untidy hair was a sign of deep grief or trauma.

Peter's new fashions . . . agitated women and made men indignant for they zealously guarded the modesty of their wives and daughters. The new style affected men in that they had to part with their beard.

Peter I had a set of codes produced called An Honest Mirror of Youth. It advised young men to be obedient to God and faithful to the tsar, to honor the old, respect parents, and to behave politely, not only at home but on the street or when visiting. Peter's code for youth also had this advice.

“It's terribly rude, when someone blows his nose as if he were blowing a trumpet, or sneezes loudly, like a scream, and frightens other people or in church scares small children...

“If you are walking on the street, be careful not to look around you or walk with your mouth agape, like a lazy ass...

“When visiting, appear neat and clean and do not forget good manners...

“Wash your hands and sit decorously, and don't grab for the first dish. Don't eat like a pig, splattering everywhere... don't jiggle your legs... don't wipe your mouth with your hand... don't lick your fingers and don't gnaw on the bones... don't talk with your mouth full, and so on.”

Times Editions Pte1994, Pages 19-22, Women in Society - Russia, Marshall Cavendish Corporation

 


 

A Russian Spice Chest from Domostroi

Domostroi is a 16th century document, drawn up under the auspices of Metropolitan Makery, depicting in detail how a true Russian Christian home should be run. The most widely known version was edited by the priest Sylvester, chaplain to Ivan the Terrible. It emphasizes respect for the Tsar and his officials and unquestioning obedience to their wishes. It has three sections: the first deals with Orthodox faith and duties to the state; the second with home life; and the third with practical matters.


Domostroi contains a detailed picture of a Russian spice chest at that time. It mentions the following spices and flavorings:

 

o       Saffron (22 mentions)

o       Pepper (10 mentions)

o       Garlic (9 mentions) - garlic and onions were described as prevalent by visitors in the early 17th century

o       Poppy seeds (8 mentions)

o       Hops (7 mentions) - (khmel’) were used to flavor beer and fermented drinks from the 11th century onwards. They grew wild in northern Russia; from the 13th century on hops were a regular item of trade in Novgorod and Pskov. They were also strewn like confetti on newly-weds

o       Cloves (5 mentions)

o       Nutmeg (4 mentions)

o       Ginger (4 mentions)

o       Herbs (4 mentions)

o       Hemp seed (3 mentions) - used mainly as a source of oil, but hemp seed cakes are also mentioned. Hemp seed was a common component of food allowances in the 16th century.

o       Lemon (3 mentions) - these seem to have been preserved in salt or brine and were imported. Lemon rinds were a snack in the early 17th century. (2 mentions)

o       Frankincense and incense (2 mentions) - for burning near icons and as church offering

o       Cinnamon (2 mentions)

o       Mace (1 mention)

o       Dill (1 mention) - added to consecrated wine


Women and the Domostroi a student paper by Guergana Gougoumanova, Mt Holyoake College


 

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